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Chinese Slang

Chinese Dating Slang

Dating has its own fast-moving vocabulary in Chinese — playful labels for crushes, players, and relationship dynamics that spread through Xiaohongshu confession posts and group chats. It is some of the most fun slang to know because it is so tied to how people actually flirt and complain.

Haoshan Hong
Haoshan Hong

Founder of Fluentide · Native Mandarin speaker · Incoming Schwarzman Scholar at Tsinghua University

Updated July 2026

What is Chinese Dating Slang?

This hub explains the dating terms worth knowing, from the classic to the very online. Each entry gives the pinyin, the real English meaning, an example, and a usage-status tag so you know whether it still lands.

Chinese Dating Slang terms

代餐 (dài cān) — A substitute that satisfies a craving the real thing cannot — in fandom, a person or scene that stands in for a pairing you actually want. Distinct from the literal diet meaning.
Classic

代餐

dài cān

a stand-in / substitute fix

海王 (hǎi wáng) — Someone juggling many romantic interests at once, keeping a whole 'ocean' of options on the hook. A player.
Classic

海王

hǎi wáng

a player / fuckboy with a roster

嗑CP (kē CP) — To enthusiastically ship a romantic pairing. Can be fictional characters or real people — with real people, treat consent and boundaries as part of the meaning.
Classic

嗑CP

kē CP

to ship a couple

绿茶 (lǜ chá) — Someone who acts sweet and innocent while quietly being calculating and manipulative. From 绿茶婊, 'green tea (bitch)'.
Classic

绿茶

lǜ chá

two-faced / fake-innocent schemer

舔狗 (tiǎn gǒu) — Someone who debases themselves for a crush who doesn't reciprocate — endlessly attentive, endlessly ignored. A simp.
Declining

舔狗

tiǎn gǒu

simp / doormat

CPDD (CP dīdī) — "Looking for a CP" — wanting a partner, often an online gaming or chat companion. A ping for pairing up. Mostly a younger-gamer / niche term.
Outdated

CPDD

CP 滴滴CP dīdī

looking for a duo / 'wanna pair up?'

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Chinese Gen-Z Slang

Cutesy, ironic, fast-changing words young people actually type — 绝绝子, 尊嘟假嘟, i人.

Chinese Work & Burnout Slang

How young China talks about the grind — 内卷 (neijuan), 躺平 (tangping), 摸鱼 (moyu), 摆烂 (bailan).

Everyday Chinese Slang

The casual expressions that fill normal conversation and make you sound less like a textbook.

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